Saturday, April 30, 2011

no one tells u this except Alok ......Sick Marwari customs in marriage and need for training in all sphere of life..

---- Forwarded Message -----
From: Mr Alok Tholiya <tholiya@yahoo.com>
To: Varunkumar Singh-Relationship Mgr-Agency-Mumbai-CISPL <varunkumarS@cholaispl.com>
Sent: Sunday, 1 May 2011 7:39 AM
Subject: no one tells u this except Alok ......Sick Marwari customs in marriage and need for training in all sphere of life..

Dear Varun,
Namaskar.
 
Abt ur quote :
 
Motivation gives"Want To", Training gives"How To".
Combination produces "Result".
 
I cud not understand relevance of this mails and its timing. However the quote below is very thoughyful, inspiringand true. Training. One needs training in all sphere of life. But people think it is only driving / swimming which u have to learn. No for personality, for success, for being a good parent, for being a good spouse, for successfully running a coop soc too u need a training. Sadly for becoming a Insurance agent u need to take a compulsory training but to be a industrialist / builder / hotelier there is only one pre condition that u should take a bureacrat or politician as partner. Sadly there is no minimum qualification or training requirement for contesting elections. So we find all incompetent, psychophants, illetrerates, unskilled, untrained as ministers and our elected representatives. And their lack of skill, knowledge, expirience, competence allows bureacrats to exploit the situiation / country fully.And we see the result daily and keep suffering as slave in this country.If there were people who knew how to manage ministries, staff, public relations,how to deliver results, how to tame bureacrts then we would have surpassed China decades ago. But we r behind in all feilds , our farmers r committing suicide, atrocities on women are order of the day ( keep a red pen in hand while reading paper keep encicling the news of atyachar on women and u will see ur paper starts bleeding and not when 100 women, brides, girls are affected only one lodges complaint so what we see in news is only a tip of iceburg). There is not a day when there is no news about rape, molestation, child abuse, bride burning,wife beating,gender discrimination, assault on women etc..
Why because our samaj and our ministers and our police and our Judiciary and worst is our media which do not want to take any intiative in this direction as they r all active parter  of system which encourages women abuse.
Women and their organisation needs training to live a risk free, secured, dignified life but are there any such programme?? From the school girls should be given compulsory training of marshal arts, identifying and dealing with men who are likely to abuse them physically and mentally etc etc . You need a Anna Hajare type movement or a very strong PIL in Supreme court to ask the government to act and not to sleep on everyday news of atrocitied on women.
 
Unfortunaely people are forced in to marriage without making them ready for it, making them aware of its risks and responsibilities. So many marriages are burden whole life, so many go in to depression, so many women in India have to committ suicide, so many others take divorce and millions others have sadly no guts to take divorce but keep suffering, keep getting beaten up, keep getting fired, insulted, tormanted etc..
 Why??? I think except christian system/ churches  there are no other community which has pre and post marital counseling. Worst is the cases of Jains where they talk of Ahinsa( non voilence) , preach for not hurting by word or deed but whole life they insult girl, wife, women, daughter in law. IN all marwaries ( I am one and know for sure ) women are treated as second class citizen. Men in this society are born with idea that women are infirior, deserve bashing, rights curtailed, dowery demanded and girl side insulted whole life. As a bride side person you have to bown down, touch feet of groom side people, keep pleasing them as u r a slave, there is no eqaulity between girl side and boy side. Worst is that forget a old women with misconception from boy side but even young educated girls, nanads ( sister in laws) educated software engineers, big businessman take pride in dominating, insulting, abusing girl side when they are a barati ( attending marriage as a guest and relative of groom). I have been witness to marriages where all type of conditions are put on girl side ( all their dreams and ambitions to be fulfilled at the cost and nerves of girl side) . No one feels sorry for insulting girls side during and after marriage. ( Soon my son will be marrying and any sick minded double standadrd, illtreateing girl side will be thrown out by me even if he is who ' s who  or closeest relative. If they booze and become uncontrollable or even without boozing show animal instinct then they deserve to be in Zoo and not in my marriage party.
 
And except me today by this mail and earlier in several converstaion no one specially Indian media has ever frowned on these silly inhuman customs of India specially of Marwaries, Haryanvis and in general north Indians. U see a talk show of filies everyday on all chanele, there r channels on religions but no talk show ever on condition of girl side from a girl is born to her marriage and even beyond. Even if girl is good, girl side has not done any thing yet sick minded people in the system will advise u to be calm, cool, bow down, surrender , keep giving alms, etc etc as it is in our genes. There r no sisters with respect towards bhabhi/ bahu/ another girl born in any family who can slap a brother if wrong but girl is pressurised / sermoned/ punished and asked to bear.
 
So we find rightly so so many nanadas too going to jail in bride burning cases. As not even educated well placed wearing modern clothes have a courage to say brother , father or mother u r wrong. In our system only girl and girl side is wrong and they only have to bear and bow down and have to keep silent. I repeat this is a psyche in genes of even most MBA's, CA's, Engineers, lawyers, Judges, media, parliamentarians and hence this imbalance, illtreatment and dominance is not the matter of discussion in Media, courts, parliament etc ..
 
I will stop here by saying even for improved relatioships, like for improved career u need training. There r many many courses, centers , counselors everywhere now a days but hardly any participant as man think they r always right so no improvement required and women are brought up ( and all her parents too) with the idea that u have to live like slaves so they never feel a pinch and story goes on. Media which has so many women have never feald desire to rake up the issues like this as they ar e busy giving whay sells and what sells is page 3 type and their mind too is page 3.
 
So in our poisoned mind there is no motivation to improve relationships, give rightful place to girl so no want so no need to take training. And result is ....read again what is underlined.
 
 
Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya (S.E.O)
 
NB: For some curious I can recommend DR Hitesh Shah drhiteshshah@gmail.com / 09869035111  at Malad and DR Laxmipriya (09611991586) as certified by ALOK as best, dedicated, ethical relationship experts. However there are many more. FPAI and Council for sex education and prenthood international have many experts. Atleast all corprates can have courses on these topics.
 
 
From: Varunkumar Singh-Relationship Mgr-Agency-Mumbai-CISPL <varunkumarS@cholaispl.com>
To:
Sent: Saturday, 30 April 2011 7:51 PM
Subject: K V Kamath takes over from Narayana Murthy

Thanks & Kind Regards
VARUN KUMAR SINGH
Relationship Manager-Agency
Contac#09320104108/09967545620.
Cholamanadalam MS GIC LTD
 
Motivation gives"Want To", Training gives"How To".
Combination produces "Result".
 




Sunday, April 24, 2011

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Saturday, April 23, 2011

dont offer Tea to guests offer lime juice.....

The surprising benefits of lemon!

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Institute of Health Sciences, 819 N. L.L.C. Charles Street Baltimore , MD 1201.

This is the latest in medicine, effective for cancer!

Read carefully & yoube the judge.

Lemon (Citrus) is a miraculous product to kill cancer cells. It is 10,000 times stronger thanchemotherapy.

Why do we not know about that? Because there are laboratories interested in making a synthetic version that will bring them huge profits. You can now help a friend in need by letting him/her know that lemon juice is beneficial in preventing the disease. Its taste is pleasant and it does not produce the horrific effects of chemotherapy. How many people will die while this closely guarded secret is kept, so as not to jeopardize the beneficial multimillionaires large corporations? As you know, the lemon tree is known for its varieties of lemons and limes. You can eat the fruit in different ways: you can eat the pulp, juice press, prepare drinks, sorbets, pastries, etc... It is credited with many virtues, but the most interesting is the effect it produces on cysts and tumors. This plant is a proven remedy against cancers of all types. Some say it is very useful in all variants of cancer. It is considered also as an anti microbial spectrum against bacterial infections and fungi, effective against internal parasites and worms, it regulates blood pressure which is too high and an antidepressant, combats stress and nervous disorders.
The source of this information is fascinating: it comes from one of the largest drug manufacturers in the world, says that after more than 20 laboratory tests since 1970, the extracts revealed that:
It destroys the malignant cells in 12 cancers, including colon, breast, prostate, lung and pancreas ... The compounds of this tree showed 10,000 times better than the product Adriamycin, a drug normally used chemotherapeutic in the world, slowing the growth of cancer cells. And what is even more astonishing: this type of therapy with lemon extract only destroys malignant cancer cells and it does not affect healthy cells.

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Friday, April 15, 2011

Read abt Acne and its scars

 
 

  • Why scars?
  • Treating the marks
  • Patience is the key

As though acne wasn't bad enough, we are left with scars to deal with. And though these scars do not do much harm and some even go away on their own, they do give us a bad time while they last. From making us feel conscious to lowering our self-esteem, these scars certainly work against our minds. In the case of severe acne, the person is often left with permanent scars on the skin.

Understanding acne
 As we reach puberty, our bodies produce a lot of hormones which increase the production of oil in our skin cells. The hair follicles in our skin get clogged with this oil and dead skin cells, forming whiteheads and blackheads and turning the region into a perfect breeding ground for bacteria. The bacteria then cause inflammation, causing pimples and pustules (bumps filled with pus). If the clogged pores open up deep into the skin, they form cysts.

Why the scars?
There are various forms of acne. The milder ones such as blackheads usually do not leave a mark if they go away on their own or if they are removed properly with a removal strip. Mild pimples, also called whiteheads, can be removed by over-the-counter medication. Inflamed pimples (pustules), however, are absolutely capable of leaving behind scars after they go away. The most severe form of acne, characterised by nodules or deep-seated cysts, almost always leaves scars that are permanent.
The small reddish or brownish scars left behind by pimples will eventually fade away. The problem starts when we pay a lot of attention to their presence and allow them to affect our self-esteem. Because a pimple or pustule can be very irritating to carry around, a lot of people pick or pop them. This habit firstly creates scars and secondly, if the scars are toyed around with too much, they can turn permanent. The more one uses the fingers on acne, the greater the chances of getting permanent scars.

Treating the marks
Various treatment procedures are available for removing the acne scars or making them less visible. Common procedures vary from dermabrasion where the skin is slightly scraped off to allow for new skin to grow in the region to laser procedures where the dermatologist uses laser to remove the top layer of skin and tighten the middle layer. Such procedures should be done by a dermatologist and only if you think the scars are very severe. In the case of permanent marks left by cysts, surgery is necessary. It is important to note that the scars do not do any physical harm and their effects are mostly psychological. While none of us would want to move into our twenties and beyond with a lot of scars on our skin, we should also be careful not be too fussy about the smaller, less noticeable scars which will fade away gradually.

Patience is the key
fA pimple or pustule can be very, very irritating. Everyone knows this because apart from a few very lucky ones, we all have to endure the pains of acne during our teenage years when we already have enough reasons to feel insecure and conscious. The most tempting thing to do is to bust it open, pop it and squeeze the pus out.
Never do this. The short-lived relief will wear off once you realize you have created a wound and you have a scab on your face. More often than not, you are very tempted to pluck off that scab, too and get it over and done with. That leaves you with a scar.
Over-the-counter medication is available for treatment of acne. And though they take time, pimples do go away. If you have more severe forms of acne, visit a doctor. You will be prescribed stronger medication to deal with the problem. Do not lose your cool and pop open the bumps. It's an almost universal problem and a pimple or two should not affect your emotional health in any way whatsoever.

 

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Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya (S.E.O.)

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Aging ...........this also tells why one should marry early.......Alok



 

BREASTS - Start ageing at 35.
BY their mid-30s, women's breasts start losing tissue and fat, reducing size and fullness.
Sagging starts properly at 40 and the areola (the area surrounding the nipple) can shrink considerably.

BLADDER - Starts ageing at 65.
Loss of bladder control is more likely when you hit 65.
Women are more vulnerable to bladder problems as, after the menopause, declining estrogen levels make tissues in the urethra - the tube through which urine passes - thinner and weaker, reducing bladder support.
Bladder capacity in an older adult generally is about half that of a younger person - about two cups in a 30-year-old and one cup in a 70-year-old. ....

LUNGS - Start ageing at 20.
Lung capacity slowly starts to decrease from the age of 20.
By the age of 40, some people are already experiencing breathlessness.
This is partly because the muscles and the rib cage which control breathing stiffen up.

VOICE - Starts ageing at 65.
Our voices become quieter and hoarser with age.
The soft tissues in the voice box (larynx) weaken, affecting the pitch, loudness and quality of the voice.
A woman's voice may become huskier and lower in pitch, whereas a man's might become thinner and higher.

EYES - Start ageing at 40.
Glasses are the norm for many over-40s as failing eyesight kicks in - usually long-sightedness, affecting our ability to see objects up close.

HEART - Starts ageing at 40.
The heart pumps blood less effectively around the body as we get older.
This is because blood vessels become less elastic, while arteries can harden or become blocked because of fatty deposits forming on the coronary arteries - caused by eating too much saturated fat.
The blood supply to the heart is then reduced, resulting in painful angina.
Men over 45 and women over 55 are at greater risk of a heart attack.  

LIVER - Starts ageing at 70.
This is the only organ in the body which seems to defy the aging process. It is the most trust worthy of all our organs. (So do not damage it at least with your deliberate actions !)

KIDNEYS - Starts ageing at 50.
With kidneys, the number of filtering units (nephrons) that remove waste from the bloodstream starts to reduce in middle age.

PROSTATE - Starts ageing at 50.
The prostate often becomes enlarged with age, leading to problems such as increased need to urinate, says Professor Roger Kirby, director of the Prostate Centre in London.
This is known as benign prostatic hyperplasia and affects half of men over 50, but rarely those under 40.
It occurs when the prostate absorbs large amounts of the male sex hormone testosterone, which increases the growth of cells in the prostate.
A normal prostate is the size of a walnut, but the condition can increase this to the size of a tangerine.

BONES - Start ageing at 35.
'Throughout our life, old bone  is broken down  by cells called osteoclasts and replaced by bone-building cells called  osteoblasts - a process called bone turnover,' explains Robert Moots,  Professor of  Rheumatology at Aintree University Hospital in Liverpool .
Children's bone growth is rapid - the skeleton takes just two years to renew itself completely.
In adults, this can take ten years.
Until our mid-20s, bone density is still increasing.
But at 35 bone loss begins as part of the natural ageing process.

TEETH - Start ageing at 40.
As we age, we produce less saliva, which washes away bacteria, so teeth and gums are more vulnerable to decay. Receding gums - when tissue is lost from gums around the teeth - is common in adults over 40.

MUSCLES - Start ageing at 30.
Muscle is constantly being built up and broken down, a process which is well balanced in young adults.
However, by the time we're 30, breakdown is greater than buildup, explains Professor Robert Moots.
Once adults reach 40, they start to lose between 0.5 and 02 per cent of their muscle each year.  
Regular exercise can help prevent this.

HEARING - Starts ageing mid-50s. More than half of people over 60 lose hearing because of their age, according to the Royal National Institute for the Deaf.

SKIN - Starts ageing mid-20s.
The skin starts to age naturally in your  mid-20s.

TASTE AND SMELL - Start ageing at 60.
We start out in life with about 10,000 taste buds scattered on the tongue.
This number can halve later in life. After we turn 60, taste and smell gradually decline, partly as a result of the normal ageing process.

FERTILITY - Starts ageing at 35.
Female fertility begins to decline after 35, as the number and quality of eggs in the ovaries start to fall. The lining of the womb may become thinner, making it less likely for a fertilised egg to take, and also creating an environment hostile to sperm.

HAIR - Starts ageing at 30.
Male hair loss usually begins in the 30s. Hair is made in tiny pouches just under the skin's surface, known as follices. A hair normally grows from each follicle for about three years, is then shed, and a new hair grows.  
Most people will have some grey hair by the age of 35.
When we are young, our hair is coloured by the pigments produced by cells in the hair follicle known as melanocytes.

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Monday, April 4, 2011

Brisk walk boosts memory in aged

Brisk walk boosts memory in aged

Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences,
January 2011

 

A new study shows that older adults who take a brisk walk three times a week do better on memory tests and increase the size of their hippocampus, a portion of the brain involved with memory formation.

In otherwise healthy adults the hippocampus shrinks by about 1 to 2 percent a year, and the decrease is even more rapid among people with dementia. Brain shrinkage is associated with memory impairment in the elderly.


The findings suggest that loss of brain volume in old age can be delayed, and may even be reversible.  The researchers say that even modest amounts of exercise by sedentary older adults can lead to substantial improvements in memory and brain health and such improvements have important implications for the health of older adults worldwide.